Micro-shift

I have been studying the art of allowing and the path of least resistance for a while and I finally come to realize that it lies in micro-shifts. The art of allowing, simply put, is about understanding what I have not control over and let go of trying to control it. And the path of least resistance is about shifting away from resistance because whatever we resist, persist. So now, more than ever, I'm practicing on really tuning in to my feelings, then using them as my guide to consciously micro-shift my thoughts. I've worked on making bigger shifts, the thing is just thinking about it feels tiring. Yet not thinking about it isn't doing much for me either. Then I learn this brilliant yet simple concept of focusing on the next baby step and then the next one right after that and so on. And in doing so created a path redirecting myself to come away from whatever I'm resisting with ease.

Here's an example: if I'm not feeling good, immediately check what is the thought I am having. I'm feeling frustrated and perhaps some what pissed that someone I'm counting on is not doing his/her job and as a result I have to go the extra mile to clean up after him/her. Yes I need to have a conversation with said person. But I'm so steeped in my feelings I'm resisting to have any contact with her, let alone getting myself to a neutral mindset with sincere intention for a productive win-win type conversation. I know I can shift the whole thing by focusing on the positive aspects of that person, but from where I am to there seems a huge step. If I just think "I'll think about his/her positive aspects later." I'm already shifting away from focusing on that person's negative aspects. I know this because I'm immediately feeling less negative. And then my next thought I focus on making the immediate next baby step, and then the next baby step. When I find myself unable to make the big shift, focus on making the baby ones. The sooner I shift, the faster I get back to feeling good again.